Pixie

Welcoming in 2017

Happy New Year Voyeurs! ¬†Whether you’ve welcomed in 2017 with promises to lose weight, get fit or just generally ‘do better’, I’m here to tell you that it really doesn’t matter.

That’s right Voyeurs, I’m not one for the New Year, New Me movement, I was pretty damn awesome throughout 2016 and each previous year and I intend to remain just as awesome throughout 2017, no matter how much the Debbie Downright Crazies (You know who you are, and thanks for reading ūüėė) desperately want me to fail.

So, if you made a resolution this New Year and you’re struggling to keep it up, then take a deep breath, recalibrate, and shake it off. ¬†There’s no point beating yourself up about it as you’ll only slide further down the slope – and you’re way too fabulous for that.

Remember, the hardest promises to keep, are the ones we make to ourselves. ¬†There will always be an excuse to put yourself on the back burner, whether it’s the school run, work committments or just a plain old lack of motivation, it’s easy to make excuses for ourselves, to ourselves.

Me? ¬†I never make New Year’s resolutions because I’m a personal acevement saboteur and I kinda feel like if I want to do something, I’ll do it no matter what. ¬†But if you do, I’m here to say, don’t be so hard on yourself. ¬†Treat it like that weird 5:2 diet and if you can manage 5 days commitment out of every 7, I’d say you’re doing pretty well. ¬†After all, what does it really matter anyway?

So, Happy New Year Voyeurs, make 2017 your bitch and go be awesome. ¬†My words of wisdom for this new year are similar to those of Cinderella’s mom; Have courage, be kind, and don’t be a dick.

Speak soon….

Pixie xo

When Hate Becomes Harmful

Writing Why I’ll Never Give Another Personal Interview got me thinking, why is there so much hate in the industry? ¬†Not only that, why is it women are tearing down other women?

When a toxic person can no longer control you, they’ll try to control what other people think of you with misinformation. ¬†Society tells us as the victim, to take the moral high ground and that others will eventually see the person for what they are – toxic. ¬†But isn’t taking the moral high ground just settling? ¬†Rolling over and saying that we won’t fight back because there’s a stigma that it makes us as bad as them? ¬†Now that I’m old enough to process this, and as a victim of hate abuse I say fuck the moral high ground.

You’ve read my recent post, you know the back story, in a nutshell, a toxic person, let’s call her Ms Jackson, used her hate for me in an attempt to sabotage my career. ¬†Something I can’t tolerate and why should I have to? ¬†After all, this is a professional person in a senior teaching role in the Fashion DepartmentFashion Voyeur Meets Fashion North of Sunderland University, we’re not talking about your average internet troll. ¬†Ms Jackson is a real person, I’ve interacted with her in real life on several occasions (and yes, she’s always been unpleasant and unprofessional in the time that I’ve worked with her).

One important point to make here Voyeurs is that it’s ok to hate me or anyone else. ¬†I’ll never quash your opinion, or anyone else’s. ¬†I’m adult enough to know that we all hate things, in my case it’s coconut, baked beans and Ellie Goulding. ¬†What’s not ok however, is to take that hate and use it as a weapon against the very person who fuels your hate. ¬†Not cool. ¬†Also, it’s playground behaviour and will make you look like a dick when the misinformation comes crashing down around you.

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The position I find myself in now is one of uncertainty. ¬†People who don’t know now me too well are being heavily influenced by a toxic person’s own warped personal opinion of me. ¬†That personal opinion is creeping into their professional teachings as a deliberate attempt to prevent me from progressing my career. ¬†You all know W. Blower has kept me in the loop throughout and on Monday I even got to see first hand the extent of the misinformation in a video taken during one of Ms Jackson’s group discussions.

Now whilst I’m flattered that for some reason I seem to be on the syllabus of the Fashion Programme at Sunderland University, I think we need to set a few things straight. ¬†The information Ms Jackson is sharing is incorrect, inaccurate, bullshit if you will.

The thing that really got me though is that this woman works in the same industry as me and instead of celebrating the very small amount of success I’ve had, she’s out there, focussing actual energy on tearing me down with misinformation. ¬†What’s more, it’s done in stealth mode, in secret, Like a covert mission. There’s got to be a reason for that right? ¬†Yeah, you know it as well as I do Voyeurs.

You know me pretty well ¬†you know that whilst I’m upfront and outgoing, I’m also guarded and fiercely protective of my family. ¬†Being a mum is hard enough, but Plankton has a super duper rare, and pretty damn severe disability which adds in a whole bunch of extra challenges. ¬†It’s not something I ever share, but because of my most recent vile third party experience with Ms Jackson it suddenly became a topic of discussion after her actions increased the risk to my family unit.

So, we’ve established that she hates me and a well placed source within the University tells me that I’m often talked about during her lectures and that she’s even gone on to advise the current cohort of students to avoid me because yes, you guessed it, she hates me. ¬†Why does she hate me? ¬†I’ve no idea, it could be anything, she’s pretty flakey. ¬†The most recent reason I heard was that she feels there’s no place for Bloggers, that without a journalism degree I’m nothing.

Personally, I think there’s a place for everyone. ¬†If you can make the best of a bad situation and turn that into a lucrative career then you deserve props. ¬†I’m all for celebrating the successes of other people, whether they’re in my industry or not, you’ve got to question the integrity of the person supporting a toxic crusader and why they make the subconscious decision to believe the things they’re told without using their own knowledge as a gauge.

Yes, I’ve lost friends to this. ¬†Will they come back? ¬†Maybe, who knows. ¬†I’m a omitting the question mark because I don’t really need an answer to that. ¬†One thing’s for sure though, I refuse the moral high ground because in business it doesn’t exist. ¬†There’s simply ‘polite hate’ and ‘harmful hate’ and I’ll never tolerate harmful hate.

So what about me? ¬†Well Voyeurs, I’ll just keep on being awesome ūüĎäūüŹľ, and what of this misinformation, nay, bullshit?¬†Well in the words of the formidable Andre 3000, I’m sorry Ms Jackson, I am for real.

Pixie xo

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Voting Open for the 2017 UK Blog Awards!

Well Voyeurs, you did your awesome thang and I’m super proud to say that for the first year ever, I’M NOMINATED IN THE UK BLOG AWARDS!

The next stage is voting. ¬†A shortlist has been compiled – I’m on it – and voting opened at 8am this morning. ¬†The voting process is exactly as it should be; quick, easy and with minimal fuss. ¬†It takes less than a minute and I promise to love you forever if you take that one minute to vote for me in the Fashion and Beauty category. ¬†You can do so by clicking HERE¬†or by using the long link at the bottom of the page, you know if you wanna share it and garner me a few extra votes *wink wink*.

Obviously I want to say a huge, big, massive thank-you to you guys, my Voyeurs. ¬†Without you there wouldn’t be a nomination, or a place on the shortlist and I appreciate every single one of you. ¬†You stick by me when things are rough, you connect with me and share my posts via social media and you make me smile with your comments and emails, especially the ones about my outfits!

Guys, you’re awesome, now stop reading and go vote in your droves….

http://blogawardsuk.co.uk/ukba2017/entries/fashion-voyeur

Pixie xo

 

Why I’ll Never Give Another Personal Interview

Why I’ll never give another personal interview again

Well, that might be overstating it but today, I’m resolute. I’ll never reveal such personal information about myself and my family again. Let me rewind a little Voyeurs and give you some perspective….

A few weeks back I gave a pretty personal interview to Alysha Stirling of student web publication, Fashion North.  We spent three hours chatting over coffee in my second home, the Crowne Plaza Hotel in Newcastle.  Alysha is a student reading Fashion Journalism at Sunderland University and was pleasant, friendly & told me how she had followed my career and held me in high regard.  So far so good.

Now I accept full responsibility for letting down my guard and sharing details about my family when you all know that’s something that I don’t do. ¬†I’m fiercely protective of both Bo and Plankton. ¬†I keep them where they want to be kept which is at home, watching Top Gear and there’s a very good reason for that, it’s to protect my disabled son.

I liked Alysha. I really did. She came armed with pages and pages of questions and we talked at length about a variety of subjects, my career, and how I gave up a senior management position within the NHS after discovering the extent of my son’s multiple disabilities and how this would go on to affect his education and ultimately our lives as a family unit. ¬†I felt relaxed enough to talk with her about this subject and I take responsibility for making myself vulnerable.

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What I didn’t expect however, was the personal attack from a Senior Lecturer at Sunderland University. ¬†Yes, it’s someone I’m familiar with, and yes, it’s someone who for reasons I’m not entirely sure of, seems to have a real problem with me, but this is business, not a playground. ¬†Now I’ve been in this business for a little while now, this ain’t my first rodeo. I’m well aware of the bitchiness that goes with this role. ¬†The blogging community can be tricky, people seem to believe that they’re fighting for work and that their peers are competition which must be eliminated. ¬†That’s just not true; we’re all out there working as hard as each other. ¬†We all have a different audience, reach and serve a different demographic and on paper we should all be able to adapt and get on, which a lot of us do. ¬†Business is about compromise, not fighting to get your own way or force your opinions on to others.

Anyway, I digress.  The Fashion North piece was published and shared as with anything else, and it discussed my role within the fashion industry as a single, self made entity.  There were specific highlights picked out by Alysha from our three hour conversation and compacted into a short 1400 word article, obviously there was some generalising, I guess to fit it into the paramenters allowed.  Within 48 short hours, all traces of the article were removed and I had vanished from the website as quickly as I had arrived and was replaced with an article on another Blogger.

I contacted Alysha – whom I discovered had ‘unfriended’ me on FaceBook – Fashion North, and the University Fashion Programme Leader in that order, to try to find out what had happened, and hit a stonewall. ¬†Completely ignored and unfollowed by of them¬†until I eventually had a cold email from the Programme Leader to simply say that it couldn’t be discussed. ¬†Ouch.

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After tweeting about my disappointment (I tried not to, I really did), I took a call from someone. ¬†Let’s call them W. Blower. ¬† W. Blower clued me up on what had actually happened behind the scenes, saying it was unfair for me to be treated like this without being given the opportunity to have a say on it. ¬†Kudos dude, you’re absolutely right.

What’s shocked me about this most, was not just the absolute bullshit crap stories made up about me, ¬†but the fact that people are stupid enough to be taken in by his horseshit without making a judgement for themselves based on things that they already know.

I felt it necessary to write this post because I was prevented from having a voice. ¬†I’ve not been given the opportunity to exercise my right to an argument after being so spitefully shut down by an individual with an acute dislike for me. ¬†I’ll be honest Voyeurs, I would have expected more professionalism from a large educational institution, the unfriending, the stonewalling, it all smacks of sixth grade. ¬†In what other aspect of life are you shut down for requesting an answer? ¬†None Voyeurs, the University didn’t believe that I deserved, or had the right to an answer. ¬†That’s one of the awesome things about blogging; you have a voice, and a platform.

Sidebar: I’m fine with people not liking me, but when people have convinced themselves that you’re a monster based on their own destructive lies about you, that’s not ok. ¬†Never put up with hate, or people who bully based on hate; it’s definitely not ok.

That Voyeurs, is why I’ll never give a personal interview again. ¬†Except to you guys, right here, in my online home, because you’re all awesome.

Pixie xo

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Fashion Voyeur: From Nothing to Something

Well Voyeurs, a little while back I told you that I was being interviewed for North East web publication Fashion North (If you can’t remember, shame on you! Click here for a recap).

I met up with Deputy Editor Alysha Stirling and we chatted for hours and hours about all things Fashion Voyeur.  From the best things about the North East and its famous exports (Hello Sophie Gradon) through to Fashion Week and my favourite designers (Hello Tom Ford and Vin + Omi)

If you’re interested in finding out a little more about me, after all, you know I play my cards close to my chest when it comes to talking about myself, then head here to see¬†the full interview – although probably not the full three hours.

I sort of remember having a single conscious thought about trying to not say anything too controversial but can’t quite remember whether or not I succeeded, I’ll let you be the judge of that.

Let me know what you think, or you know, don’t….

Also, thanks to Photographer Chris Ord for the awesome lead image for the piece.

Pixie xo

 

 

Fashion Voyeur Meets Fashion North

Well Voyeurs, today I was interviewed by a very lovely lady from student powerhouse, Fashion North¬†for an actual feature. ¬† ¬†if you’ve never heard of it, then get familiar.

Fashion North is a one stop shop; a fast paced hub dedicated to all things fashion and beauty and these girls have their fingers on the pulse.  The entire staff is made up of Fashion Journalism students at Sunderland University, students who give their time to researching the most up to date fashion and beauty news from the North East and around the globe and posting it to the website.

If there was ever an awesome advert for a Fashion Journalism course, then Fashion North is it.

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I was asked if I’d be willing to be interviewed for a feature on Fashion North by Deputy Editor Alysha Stirling and being an advocate for both fashion and the North East, I agreed without hesitation, because I’m nice like that.

I met with Alysha over peppermint tea and we talked fashion, beauty, politics and women in sport and it was like chatting with an old friend; an old friend with better winged eyeliner then me. ¬†Me with last night’s hair and her with a gorgeous fluffy coat….

Wearing the remnants of a silver star transfer on my cheek from the night before and my gym kit I asked her “Why me?” and when she replied with “I just think that you’re really cool” ¬†I knew we were going to hit it off. ¬†In fact, she might not know this yet but I’ve actually decided we’re friends now.

She asked about my infamous Miami wedding – it’s my wedding anniversary tomorrow – and I paused as I had a vague memory of jumping into a pool in my wedding dress. ¬†Is that rock and roll I ask myself? ¬†Nah, just totes stupid I summise so I don’t tell her that particular gem.

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So Voyeurs, be sure to check out Fashion North, if you’re an avid reader of fashion social websites then add it to your reading list, you might just be surprised by just how awesome this crop of fashion students are. ¬†I’ll update you with when the piece goes live (like twenty times each day for that day and probably the following fortnight) but it’s likely to be the beginning of December and it’s a pretty personal piece about me so you’ll discover some of my hidden secrets too!

Finally, I’d like to end by requesting a round of applause from all of you to celebrate the fact that I’m almost certain I didn’t say anything toooooooo controversial, although that remains to be seen…..

Pixie xo

 

Catch Up on the The Tyne & Wear Lifestyle Awards 2016

Missed the Tyne & Wear Lifestyle Awards on TV?  How could you Voyeurs?!

You’ll know by now that the Newcastle Discovery Museum played host to the inaugural Lifestyle Awards Ceremony recently which produced an honours list for North East business. ¬†The best of the best, as shortlisted and voted for by you, the North East public.

Made TV broadcast the entire event live with a live edition of The Lowdown as a prelude to the big event itself, looking at red carpet dressing, fashion trends and prepping for the awards.

Why should you watch it? ¬†One word: ME! ¬†No seriously, you should watch it because the Lifestyle Awards is your essential guide to what’s hot in the North East in 2016/17. ¬†You’ll discover the hottest nightspots, the best places to eat and maybe even a hidden gem or two that you weren’t already aware of. ¬†What’s really awesome about these awards is that they don’t just focus on Newcastle – an undeniably awesome city – but there is so much more to Tyne & Wear than just our Geordie Hub.

So, this of this as your second chance, your saving grace….. I’m giving you the power to watch the entire show at your leisure, as many times as you like using the following links. ¬†Although I will say this, you might want to just skip ahead to part two, that’s the best bit, I’m told it’s because I’m in it but I can neither confirm nor deny that*…… (*It’s absolutely true Voyeurs)

So here you go, knock yourself out Voyeurs…..

Tyne & Wear Lifestyle Awards 2016 – Part 1

Tyne & Wear Lifestyle Awards 2016 – Part 2

Tyne & Wear Lifestyle Awards 2016 – Part 3

Tyne & Wear Lifestyle Awards 2016 – Part 4

Tyne & Wear Lifestyle Awards 2016 – Part 5

Tyne & Wear Lifestyle Awards 2016 – Part 5

 

The Tyne & Wear Lifestyle Awards 2016

Last week businesses and fashionistas from all over the North East gathered at the Discovery Museum in Newcastle to celebrate the inaugural Tyne & Wear Lifestyle Awards, broadcast live on Made in Tyne & Wear.

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With twelve categories, the ceremony toasted a whole range of businesses, ultimately compiling a guide to everything that’s awesome about the North East in one handy list. ¬†I swept up the train of my Claire Pettibone Romantique dress and sped over to the Discovery Museum to bring you the lowdown….

Our venue for the evening, The¬†Discovery Museum is an imposing, red brick building which houses treasures from all over the region and as an event venue it’s pretty special. ¬†As we make our way up to the Grand Hall hidden away in the roof space, the internal metal structure exposed, this truly is the jewel in the museum’s crown and the perfect place¬†for a Geordie knees up.

I bumped into fellow Blogger Anth May wearing a fitted TopMan suit and he instantly became my designated date for the evening.  After being interviewed for a live edition of The Lowdown about red carpet fashion and new season trends (Did you catch it Voyeurs?) we were seated for a three course dinner inspired by North East delicacies including pease pudding and even a stottie. (High five whoever shoehorned that on to the menu).  We shared a table with North East favourites Donna Petch from North East Hub and Joe Sexton from cookery show Fit in the Kitchen.

Pre-show entertainment¬†came in the form of a comedy-fest¬†from Britain’s Got Talent favourites The Mimic Men and as the entire night’s proceedings were broadcast live on TV, the audience were given a jovial reminder on etiquette for fucks, buggers and See You Next Tuesdays before the show got underway.

Our hosts for the evening were trio Peter, Mel and Hazel – ¬†you’ll recognise them from The Lowdown, who provided the links, glamour and humour between awards, all whilst looking more dapper than ever. ¬†The girls wore aqua blue embellished evening dresses and Peter looked uber handsome in a black dinner suit, (you’ve set the bar high guys, remember, you’ve got to better this next year!)

Guest presenters from all over the region and further afield dished out awards to the best North East businesses, as voted for by the public.  I was asked to present the award for Best Fashion Retailer which went to Gosforth boutique Have To Love and owner Kate Walton told me she was ecstatic to have won.

At the end of the evening, a special Tyne & Wear Legend Award was given to Colin Burgin-Plews, otherwise known as Big Pink dress, for selflessly dedicating his time to innovative ways of raising funds for Cancer Awareness charities. ¬†Kudos Colin, I think you’re pretty damn awesome.

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Once the awards were concluded there was just one thing left to do, party the night away.

For one night only, the best of the best in the North East assembled under one roof, just like the Avengers did – although they did it on a plane – and danced the night away. ¬†And if there’s one thing we don’t need an award for in Tyne & Wear it’s partying, we’ve got that one covered….

Pixie xo

Missed The Lowdown live from the Lifestyle Awards?  Fear not Voyeurs, you can catch it, and me, right here

Tyne & Wear Lifestyle Award Winners:

Best Coffee Shop¬†‚Äď Mister Woods

Best Pub¬†‚Äď City Tavern

Best Fashion Retailer¬†‚Äď Have To Love

Best Hair and Beauty Salon¬†‚Äď Patrick Forster Barber and Shop

Best Hotel¬†‚Äď Malmaison

Best Bar¬†‚Äď The Botanist

Best Cultural Attraction¬†‚Äď National Glass Centre

Best Restaurant¬†‚Äď River Beat

Best Club¬†‚Äď House of Smith

Best Fitness Facility¬†‚Äď Model Health

Best Live Experience¬†‚Äď Great North Run

Tyne & Wear Legend Award¬†‚Äď Colin Burgin-Plews (Big Pink Dress)

 

 

 

 

The Scarlet Pimpernel

Well Voyeurs, I’m sure you’ve noticed that I’ve neglected my website of late and that has meant less posts than you might be used to. ¬†the reasons for this are many; family shit, legal shit, being fabulous at events¬†and so on….

So, This is a post to let you know that I’m here and I haven’t forgotten about you all, your tweets and Insta comments are what keeps me going when things are tough so even if I don’t manage to get a full blog post out there I’ll still keep you all updated with snapshots of my life where I can! ¬†Make sure you’re following me, yep you guessed it, I’m on both Twitter and Instagram¬†as @pixietenenbaum

The Legal Shit:

People. Be. Cray. ¬†I recently had an annoying¬†situation which involved¬†someone literally copying my work word for word and then getting¬†angry when approached and asked to stop. ¬†I’ve had a tirade of abuse from the person responsible and also her friends which is a little disappointing and very unexpected. ¬†They claim several times that they’ve apologised and that I’m being petty and pathetic but I’m yet to see an apology, maybe they did it in their head?

What do other writers do in this situation? ¬†I’ve had similar before but generally people are responsive, apologise, rectify and move on.

The Family Shit:

Super shitty news received about a close family member at Tenenbaum Towers recently. ¬†That’s all you need to know for now.

Being Fabulous:

Come on, like you had to ask?! ¬†I’ve been all over the place recently and had¬†eleven straight days of events (that’s a high five right there) including the launch of Duke Ata bespoke menswear, the Tyne & Wear Lifestyle Awards and the launch of The Grind. ¬†I’m also picking up a lot more modelling and styling work with a vintage themed runway show in London coming up before Craig David switches on the Oxford Street Christmas lights – I really hope I was allowed to give that away…..

So, to sum up – some things are shit, some things are awesome, I am still fabulous and I’m still here.

I’m aware that I big time owe you some posts! ¬†Until next time Voyeurs….

Pixie xo

The 2016 Tyne & Wear Lifestyle Awards

On Wednesday October 19th the Newcastle Discovery Museum will play host to the first ever Tyne and Wear Lifestyle Awards. ¬†Organised by MADE TV and following on from the success of similar awards shows in Bristol and London, this time, it’s our turn.

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After an initial nomination period where the public and proud businesses from across the region put themselves up for the prestigious awards, a shortlist of the most popular was combined and members of the public were asked to vote for their favourites. ¬†From Best Fashion Retailer to Best food & Drink Outlet, the Lifestyle Awards is really an essential list of everything that’s awesome about our region.

The awards ceremony itself promises to be like nothing the North East has been seen before, from the amazing venue with its beautiful room in the eaves, to the live TV broadcast, so you Voyeurs, will find out the results at the same time as the winners do, how cool is that?!

The best bit? ¬†I’ll be there live from the Lifestyle Awards bringing you the red carpet arrivals, and I’m also presenting the award to the best Fashion Retailer (natch).

Flagship show The Lowdown will also be live from 7pm on Wednesday with Hazel, Mel and Peter so be sure to tune in to grab a front row seat.

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So, whether you’re from the North East or not, this is one TV event that should be marked in your calendar, consider it your guide to What’s Hot in the North East right now, after all, this has been voted for by you guys….

See you there!

Pixie xo

Tune In

The next time you can catch The Tyne and Wear Lifestyle Awards on Made In Tyne & Wear is:

  • 9:00 pm, Wednesday 19th October – Tyne and Wear Lifestyle Awards (Episode 1).
  • 10:00 pm, Friday 21st October – Tyne and Wear Lifestyle Awards (Episode 2).
  • 10:00 am, Saturday 22nd October – Tyne and Wear Lifestyle Awards (Episode 2).